How we view ourselves has a big impact on the type of decisions we make. If someone asked, who are you, what would you say? What actually defines you?
Today, there is a lot of pressure on women to have a certain body image. Everywhere you look, social media, television, and magazines are showing off women with a certain body image. Then daily you are blasted with advertisement of the newest get skinny quick shake or my favorite, the waist cincher. Everyone wants to be a fitness expert and loves to promise that in 30 days you will be suddenly be 50 lbs lighter and in the best shape of your life. Now, do not get me wrong, I believe health is very important, but the source of why you are shaping your image matters. Are you doing it because you want to be healthy or are you doing it because you want to be desired by men and want to feel like you fit in? Are you telling yourself, "If I could just lose weight, if I could just get a bigger butt, or have a flatter tummy, I will be happier." No, no, and no! Do it because your body is a temple and you want to take care of it, do it because you want to be healthy and live a long healthy life. Do it because you want to look better and feel better for yourself.
How we view ourselves matters because it will affect our decision making skills. If you view yourself as unwanted, unattractive, and unworthy then you are less likely to take care of yourself. However, if you view yourself as loved, beautiful, and worthy you will cherish and take care of your mind and body. Your inner core matters just as much as your outer core. What are you saying about yourself daily? If you constantly speak on how no one wants to be with you, wishing you were someone else, and telling yourself your not enough, it will reflect on the outside.
Dealing with Low Self-Esteem and the need to be Desired?
The only way for you to be loved, is to first love yourself. To know what love is you must look at your Creator and see what he says about you.
Song of Solomon 4:7
Keep that in your mind daily and meditate on who the word says you are. I put sticky notes on my mirror and every morning I remind myself of who I am. I was not always confident as I am today, but I realized that no one was made just like me and acquired the same taste for life like me, or had my same smile or laugh. I was completely unique, making me a rarity. From then on, I never questioned my worth, I knew I was made perfectly imperfect in the image of Christ. The more you allow the real you to be seen, the more freedom you will feel. Freedom from labels and society, freedom to just be you.
How do I start to take good care of my temple?
Everyone does not enjoy working out or eating healthy food. Everyone is not chowing down on gluten free brownies and silk milk. No offense if you are, I am just saying that everyone's tastes are different. So try walking if you hate the idea of running or extensive cardio workouts. Make it a habit to walk every other day or at least four days out of the week. And when it comes to your favorite food it's all about portion control, yeah who does not love pizza and wings, but maybe this time get thin crust and buy wings that you can bake in the oven. Don't like either choice? Then just do not eat your regular 3-4 slices, try eating only two slices and a few wings. You can have your favorite dishes but stop overdoing it. You are not only gaining weight but you are also taking in too much sodium, cholesterol, and calories that are harmful overtime to your body. Try this! For 21 days, try portioning out your food where you do not eat as much as you normally do and walk at least 4 times a week for an hour and a half. It's said that 21 days makes something a habit. So if you can hold on to this for 21 days, it will become routine and you will love the results. It takes more time than the get slim quick diets but the weight will actually stay off and not come back as fast. Oh and definitely drink water, daily! It not only helps your body but it's great for your hair, nails, and skin. Ladies, you got this! Take the challenge!
So what is the source of your image? Social Media? Television? Men? Really think about it! Make sure the source of your image is healthy, motivating, and always positive.
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"In our weakness, He is made strong. Worried or stressed about your image? Give it to God! Tell Him exactly how you feel and He will begin to reveal to you all the amazing talents and gifts He has given you and why you& your purpose are so important."
Have a great week & Praying for you ladies, always. - Love, Rissa
Clarissa C. Burton, M.S.W
Devoted to guiding others toward living a life they don't need a vacation from.