Lately, I have noticed that more and more people are not pursuing their dreams and purpose out of fear. Fear that they are not good enough, fear of what others will think, and fear that the negative words others have spoken will come to pass. We've created this mentality that for God to use us or for us to have the things we've dreamed of that we have to have it all together. We've heard others say that the only way we can do something is to have x,y, and z. While God says that with Him all things are possible. So, I want to ask you, who are you listening to? What is it that you are hearing, that you are taking on as the truth when it comes to your life and your purpose? Whose word will be the final say so in your life?
Let's take a look.......
What others say about you: Ultimately I am sure we all want to have a great reputation and leave a great impression on others, which is not a bad thing. Where it becomes an issue is when we allow what others say to dictate how we live our lives. It's when what others say, means more to us than what God says. I've heard so many people say that they are afraid to pursue a certain career or dream, because they are nervous of what others would think or someone has told them they cannot do it. I can honestly say, I have even felt like that before, but I did not let that stop me from pursing my dreams. I had to grab hold of what God said about me, and let that be my determining factor, not the opinion of others. When we allow others to dictate how we live our life we'll find ourselves very unhappy and failing to live out our purpose. Everyone's life will not be the same, so we cannot expect others to understand or always agree with what God is telling us to do. If I would have listened to all the people who doubted my ability to start a blog and follow through with posting on it, I would not be writing today. I knew without any doubt that God wanted me to start it, so I did. I sat down, wrote out a plan of action, and allowed God to lead me every step of the way. One thing we have to understand is that with Growth comes the end of certain friendships, relationships, and behavior. Many times where you are going in life, certain people from your past cannot come with you. It does not have to be an ugly departure, but there comes a time where you have to pull yourself out of negative friendships. Now, there are times that God will put people in your path to encourage you and speak to you about your future, but you will know who they are by lining up what they say with what God says about you, because He is the ultimate determining factor. If it does not match what He says about you, it may be time to remove that person from having close influence in your life. If the people you surround yourself with or have influence in your life do not ENCOURAGE GROWTH, PROMOTE LEADERSHIP, or HELP YOU WALK STRAIGHT WITH CHRIST then it is time to let those relationships go. There are times that we have friends who are not doing those things, that God sends us to guide and lead, but if they have more influence over you than you have over them, its time to end it. The friends that you look to for help and guidance should always be headed where you hope to go. Any person in your life right now that calls you with negativity or gossip, you need to let go of. Where you are destined to go, you cannot take any of that with you, there is no room for negativity and gossip in your destiny.
What You say about You: Next to what God says, what you say about yourself is the biggest determining factor of who you will be. I have heard people use the phrase "FML" and it always hurts me that people would say that about themselves. Every time I hear children call themselves dumb or stupid, my heart becomes heavy. I want everyone to understand that we have the power to determine who we are and where we will go in life, but it starts with what we think of ourselves and what we say about ourselves. If you constantly remind yourself of your failures, you will live in the past with those failures. Our words have so much power and if we use it to tear ourselves down, we have not done well with our power. I understand that sometimes the words of others can infiltrate our minds and cause us to begin to believe their lies. For example, if a child is constantly called stupid by their parent, that child is more likely to believe it and begin saying it about themselves too. That is why we have to drown out the words others call us and fill our thoughts with what God says about us. By doing this, even when someone does doubt our dreams or call us names, we will not allow ourselves to repeat what they say. Also, there are many times we speak over our circumstances and constantly call ourselves poor, sick, and helpless. We have to learn that though things may not look like they are working out in our favor, our words and prayers can change the outcome. Recently I challenged all my readers to take 5 minutes out of their morning to speak positively about their day ahead. This allows us to dictate and control how things will go. Plus, it gives us a positive outlook on the day ahead, which tends to lead us to make better decisions throughout our day. It may help to place sticky notes with encouraging messages on your mirror to remind you of who you really are. Remember, what you say about yourself, matters more than what others have to say about you.
What God says about You:
"So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female he created them." Genesis 1:27
"Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." Philippians 1:6
"And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them." Romans 8:28
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
"What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?" Romans 8:31
God says that you were made in His image. That He already had a plan for you before you were born, that plan was to Prosper you and to not harm you, to give you a Hope and a Future. When you pass through the waters, rivers, and flames He is with you and will not let them overtake you. That He began a good work in you so He will carry on to complete it. If God is with you, who then can be against you.
That's what God has to say about you, after hearing that, there should be no doubt that His word means more than what anyone else can say about you. Write these scriptures down on a sheet of paper and recite them to yourself everyday. It will begin to renew your mindset and you will see a difference in your life, I am sure.
REMEMBER THIS: Understand that God does not call the qualified, He qualifies the ones He has called. You do not have to be afraid of not being good enough, qualified enough, or experienced enough because God has already taken care of that when He called you to pursue your purpose. It may look like you are not the ideal candidate for a job or that the business you want to start requires too much work, but it starts with the decision to believe what God says about you. Then, create a plan of action and get to work. With God everything is possible, so do not limit God to what He can do. God can do above and beyond anything we can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Remember whose team you are on and pursue your dreams TODAY!
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Have a great week and as always I will be praying for each and every one of you! - Love, Rissa
Clarissa C. Burton, M.S.W
Devoted to guiding others toward living a life they don't need a vacation from.