You ever heard of the comparison game? Well, it's where you constantly measure your "win" in life by comparing your life to the life of others. I believe I found the biggest confidence booster when I realized there is no competition. I get asked a lot where does my confidence come from and how did I get bold enough to speak up for myself and the things that I believed in. The key was realizing that I was made completely unique and a part of a whole picture. This means that my purpose is just as important as the next persons here on earth. We are all a part of a bigger picture and because of that, there is no need to envy or compare myself to the next person or their life. To compliment another or recognize their shine, does not diminish your shine. One of the biggest tricks or schemes to keep you engaged in the comparison game is social media. Not only are you surrounded by the pictures of others successes via Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, you can even go on Pinterest and save to a board the things you would want that others have. Now don't get me wrong I love, love, love Pinterest. It's full of so many great decor ideas, recipes, and fashion choices, but if used incorrectly or overused it can be a part of what's keeping you playing into the comparison game. Instead of feeling sad, inadequate, and jealous after seeing the successes of others you should feel inspired and excited that one day it'll be your time to shine in that certain area. We have a choice to either celebrate the accomplishments of others or be jealous of them. The latter destroys your self-esteem and doesn't get you any closer to your own success stories. Instead, compliment, celebrate, and congratulate others when they meet a certain goal, or obtain something you, yourself may have wanted.
Life is not a competition, everyone is running their own personal race. You may just be catching someone's race at one of the victory points, but that doesn't mean they never had to struggle before getting there and that they won't struggle right after that victory point. Instead of comparing, focus on the race and journey you are running right now. You are just as special as the next person. There's no one on this earth better or more important than the next. God saw fit to create each of us, therefore we are all equally worthy, whether you can see it or not. The worth of a person is not something visual to the eye, it is something that can't be measured by our senses, but by a knowing that if God put you here on this earth, you are valuable...Point, Blank, Period. So step away from the game and walk in knowing that you are your own competition.
"The only person you should be better than is the person you were yesterday."
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Have a great week and as always I will be praying for each and every one of you! - Love, Rissa
Clarissa C. Burton, M.S.W
Devoted to guiding others toward living a life they don't need a vacation from.